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Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy 16 Week Online Course Course Begins 17 May, 2010 Click here to go right to the registration page.
What is the class schedule? Is there a certain time that I have to be in class? How much time will it take? Every other week during the class you will be able to download a written PDF lesson with lecture and homework assignments. You will also receive a web address for a class forum where you will post your responses to each homework assignment and read the posts from other students along with my responses. I will post on the online class forum at least once a week. You can work at your own pace and log into the class forum and read and post any time. There is no set class schedule. It will probably take from about 90 minutes to two hours every couple of weeks for actual class participation. You get to decide how much time you will spend applying the principles of All The Way In in your intimate relationship. Is your All the Way In class appropriate for a currently single man who wants to learn about what makes relationships work and why previous relationships have not worked? The class is perfect for single guys who want to start from day one of meeting a woman to set the tone for creating a healthy relationship. The better you understand how healthy, passionate relationships work and what it takes to create them, the more effective you will be in your dating. You will set the tone and take the lead from the very beginning and get to rejection quickly with women who aren't a good match for you. All The Way In is a great roadmap for single men who want a great relationship with a great woman. I read your description of what happens when the woman is forced to lead ("She feels controlling and bitter, he feels criticized and inadequate"). This is the opposite of what I'm experiencing in my relationship with my wife. Instead of her feeling this way, I feel these statements relate to me not my wife - I guess this could mean I'm taking the lead and just not in a relationship with a partner who is all the way in? So, I wonder does "All The Way In" also apply to some women who may not be all the way in? An important part of the All The Way In paradigm is the willingness to "get to rejection quickly". When the guy gets all the way in (with love and integrity), he will quickly find out if his partner is willing and able to also get all the way in and whether or not she is a good fit. Leading with love is not the same and trying to change your partner. Trying to get your partner to be something other than what they are is unloving. She will feel this. If you find she is not a good fit, the loving thing to do is to set the tone and be a good ender. Isn't it dangerous to make generalizations which assume a certain gender is better at something than the other? It sounds like the 1950's all over again. I understand the danger of generalizing, especially with something as complex and fluid (and politically and socially volatile) as gender and sexuality. I'm going to do it anyway. I understand that not all men are alike and not all women are alike. I understand that all situations are different. I understand that men and women can consciously swap roles. I understand that there are women who are more masculine than feminine and men who are more feminine than masculine. I understand that women can have male type brains (engineers) and men can have female type brains (decorators). In spite of the shortcomings of generalizing about gender and sexual orientation, the fact is, someone has to lead and someone has to follow. In general, the game doesn't work well with two pitchers and no catchers or two bottoms and no tops. In spite of the prevailing philosophy that relationships should be 50/50, cars still come with one steering wheel and televisions with one remote. Someone has to drive and someone has to click. It is okay to take turns, but it still works best when each person in a relationship has a default position and the person with the natural "male" or masculine nature sets the tone and takes the lead with consistency. This is what the "feminine" craves. Have you received much backlash from women as the result of teaching men to be be in control? I don't teach men to control anything, especially another person. Control is an illusion and attempts to control a partner are unloving. When I encourage men to set the tone and take the lead, I am inviting them to be conscious and present in their relationship. This is the greatest act of love and integrity a man can offer his partner. I often use the metaphor of dance. There is no control. There is a lead and a follow. Each person knows their role. When the lead does his job and the follow lets him, the dance is beautiful and exhilarating for both people involved. In general, women like what I teach men. Many are tired of being the gatekeepers of their intimate relationships. They are tired of driving the bus. They are tired of being the "lead". They are tired of feeling tired. They are tired of being asked, "what do you want to do tonight?" They are ready for a different plan. I see that your class is open to women. What will women get out of the course? While All the Way In is directed toward men, women are invited to participate in the course. I think it is helpful for women to know the kind of integrated man and healthy leader their partner is learning to become. In this class, women will learn: It is also a powerful statement of love and courage for a man to ask his wife or girlfriend to join him in this class. If your partner knows how you are being challenged to lead, it raises your accountability and her expectations of what kind of man you have the possibility of being. It takes balls for a guy to make himself this vulnerable, but that is what this course is all about! I have been working with couples for almost 30 years. I have been leading up to five therapy groups a week for men for almost twenty years. Here is the most significant thing I've discovered about relationships: When the man shows up in his intimate relationship and takes responsibility for setting the tone and taking the lead with love and integrity, both he and his partner have the greatest opportunity to experience what they both most deeply desire. All The Way In presents a radical paradigm in which men are encouraged to take an active leadership role in their relationship by becoming more present, honest, and transparent. By becoming more conscious in their intimate relationship, men can act with love and integrity in setting a tone that promotes open communication, problem resolution, reciprocity, trust, and sexual passion. Great relationships don't happen by accident or luck. They are the result of men becoming conscious of how they are getting in their own way and discovering how to act with genuine love and integrity toward their partner. In just four months you can have the kind of amazing relationship you have always wanted. I warn you though, I won't be easy on you. I have no problem taking a 2X4 to the side of men's heads to get their attention. I believe it is that important for the man to really get it and show up and start doing the heaving lifting. I promise you though, it will be worth it! You'll be able to tell by the look in her eyes! Click here for testimonials from previous course participants. Click here for a description of course lessons. Click here to go right to the registration page. | |
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