Flakey Date

[Cactus Hopper]

I'm new here, but have been lurking for awhile.

This has sort of been covered in a couple of other recent post's, but would like input on my particular situation.

I set up a lunch date this past Wednesday. My date texted me the morning of, and stated that she was getting off early for the holiday and wanted to see if we could reschedule for Friday. I texted back that would be fine, lunch or dinner? She chose lunch so she could spend the rest of the day decorating.

She texted yesterday to see how my Thanksgiving went, and again this a.m. to see if we could switch to dinner since she had "errands". Her errand is fixing a leaky tire. I texted back and let her know that I was busy for dinner (which I don't really have plans other than going out to a favorite club, and that would be past dinner time anyway) but maybe another time. She texted right back asking about lunch for next week. I did not respond.

My instincts tell me this is a total lack of interest on her part and should let this one go. What say you?

[Hawkeye]

JackNicholson usually recommends that to make it up to you she has to cook a gourmet meal for you,..., and to tell her she has to wear a mini skirt. And if not? Bye.

[ModernDayPimp]

Why do you give her options such as using phrases such as lunch or dinner? Take charge and give her one option in the first place. It sounds indecisive to me and not called for. Second, from my perspective there's better dates than inviting a woman for lunch or dinner. Sounds like Dallas or Falcon Crest to me. Why not do something fun?
Third, as long as she asks to reschedule the date I would hang in there if I thought she was worth it. You have not been shot down by what you have been telling.

[Cactus Hopper]

Originally it was a lunch date so we could get to know each other and would be an easy way to bail if it didn't look good. Also it was a planned lunch date during the work day. Wimpy I know, but she asked for the reschedule so I gave her the option of lunch or dinner instead of being more direct. Will work on that.

[TheIndigoMan]

You’re getting yourself into a manipulative little power game my friend. You’re playing the unavailable guy; she’s playing the unavailable girl. I don’t know who teaches this stuff, but I think things just don’t go well this way.

If you’re available for dinner, say so and don’t pretend you’re busy.
If you don’t like that she keeps postponing the date, tell her so.
If you still like her and want to see her, schedule another meet-up. I would not consider her postponing twice a definite flaking sign.

[pagaman]

Just be patient - it's Thanksgiving week. And she didn't stand you up - she let you know what was going on. Not a sign of a flake. Punt away - tell her you'll ping her next week - let her focus on her shopping and family activities for awhile. And go out to that club tonight and get a few phone #'s!

[Cactus Hopper]

Thanks for the advice guys. This is my first attempt back into the dating scene. Trying not to take it all too seriously and have a good time with it. I refused to play games, and that means I don't need to be playing them myself.

[Cactus Hopper]

She just emailed me apologizing for canceling, and wanting to know about next week. I gave her a date, place, and time and she accepted. Will see from here.

[Nomad]

Originally Posted by ModernDayPimp

Why do you give her options such as using phrases such as lunch or dinner? Take charge and give her one option in the first place. It sounds indecisive to me and not called for. Second, from my perspective there's better dates than inviting a woman for lunch or dinner. Sounds like Dallas or Falcon Crest to me. Why not do something fun?
Third, as long as she asks to reschedule the date I would hang in there if I thought she was worth it. You have not been shot down by what you have been telling.

Actually framing her choices for her is a great win-win. She gets to feel that she made a choice of which the options you have already vetted.

[Shockwave]

The only flakes I like are frosted, in a bowl, covered with cold milk.

Other than that, got no time for flakes.

[MyWave]

Originally Posted by Shockwave

The only flakes I like are frosted, in a bowl, covered with cold milk.

Other than that, got no time for flakes.

Tony the Tiger is definently integrated

Let us know if she was worth the wait

[TITUS]

Originally Posted by Shockwave

The only flakes I like are frosted, in a bowl, covered with cold milk.

Other than that, got no time for flakes.

I've had to many experiences with this type. I'm with Shock on this one, Jacks method is pretty good also, it will really show if she's interested.

It's pretty obvious right now going out with you is at the bottom of her "to do" list, holidays or not. I guess it depends on how badly you want to date her and if the BS is worth the payoff.

I'd give her the "gift of missing you" - you have your own priority's. Like all the other women out there!