Dating Younger

[MrOkGuy]

Originally Posted by Beerman

Nice summary! Thank you for that. Having a 15 year old son I have kinda determined that if she is closer to his age than mine, I will pass on her.

The more I date the more I start to figure out what I am looking for at this point in my life. The last gal I was dating was 49 and it became obvious she was looking for a steady one-on-one relationship. I determined that is not what I wanted right now and told her so. The old me would have never been so direct about it and I would have suffered through the relationship because I would have thought I didn't have any options (scarcity thinking). If I have learned one thing during my metamorphosis it is that is not the case!

Well Beerman, looks like you are on your way. You know, the one thing I learned is that one does know the answers. Trust your guts, because they are golden. The only times I screwed up was when I did not listen to my guts... you just have to know how to read your reactions, sort of like tea leaves or something.

[NextVision]

About 12 years ago( I was 23) I dated a woman who was in her early 50's. The sex was awesome and she looked like a model. We dated for almost two years. She was plenty energetic, the new age type. That way before the cougar thing became cool.

What Ive learned is that its not about age. Its about having fun and finding out what type of man you are through the challenges of that relationship.

Im married to a woman three yrs younger. If was dating the only reason I could see myself dating a younger woman is to have kids. Most 20 something women are pretty silly to me.

[mc1967]

Good thread!

Originally Posted by MrOkGuy

Beerman-
explore the spectrum, and see what works best for you. I think chronological age might not mean much. I will tell you that before I found what I wanted (and that is a pretty legitimate question to pose), I explored a lot, and by that I do not mean having sex and dating left and right. I just went out with as many women as I possibly could, from different ethnicity, ages, interests, and sometimes just to talk. Imagine a job interview, and that you are looking for your best candidate. You should look into everything on the map.

So, after my diatribe, you ask... what do I want? I'm 42.
Here is how I categorize what I looked into and what I ended up wanting:

from 20-25: use earplugs. Unless it is just for sex, very hard to detect intelligent life forms.
from 25-30: good age, start to get really good at sex, but problems looming in the horizon; you might have lucked out if you want to settle down with kids;
from 30-35: run away. These are chasing husbands for the most part, and are going through a middle life crisis connected to their bio-clock. Quite complicated, and I had my share of this.
from 35-40: Most have already decided they will have or not kids, and seem happy with their decision. I ended up in this category, and can't complain!
beyond 40: I think it is a crap shoot. You either hit a cougar, which is similar to a 20-25 with attitude, or someone who never found anyone who could stand her. Would that be you? Good luck....

Disclaimer: my statistics are rather poor, based upon 15-20 women overall. Some buckets are under-represented (the 30-35). The 20-25 as well: I have a problem with screaming girls (when I am not having sex with them).

This is a good summary, but I saw very little positive stuff. If you had to pull out something positive, something that you liked, something that you got impressed/surprised by, what would that be? Your focus seem to be too much on them? How about what you want and what you’ve decided – how would that fit in the different categories?

MC

[fishhead]

Beerman definetly had some good observations.
MC, these are some of the positives I gleamed from my dating experiences.
20-25 - not long commitment minded. Goes with the flow. Suprisingly low maintenance.
25-30 - Awesome sex. Self aware. Somewhat wild, living the last of the 20 something years. Capable of commitment.
30-35 - Whew - consider these to be a woman's psycho dating years like beerman. The women I've dated in this range when not bitter, were extremely honest and grounded. They have become in their own and know what they want and don't. They seem to be more gaurded with sex and themselves at this age. If you want an inteeligent conversation, decent sex, integrity, then a HEALTHY woman in this age range is awesome.
35-40 I can only say I have dated two women in this age range. Neither experience was very pleasent. Not much experience with this age range. One of the women though was a sexual machine.
40-50 Only one experience here. Honestly, looking back on it she was a good woman who made some bad desicions and was just plying time. Not my cup of tea, I was a little younger then and the sex was ok.

[mc1967]

Some interesting videos from R. Don Steele here:

http://www.videojug.com/interview/do...-younger-women

MC