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Old July 24th, 2009, 10:51 PM
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Annoying Craigslist Scam

In my never ending quest to try "new things" I decided to post an ad on Craigslist as I am out of the town I live in for the weekend and wouldn't have minded either a date or a hook-up with a new lady.

Here's the ad:

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Originally Posted by In Town for the Night - meet for drinks - m4w - 35
35 - fit - successful professional. SINGLE. In town for the weekend. Looking for an attractive woman to meet for drinks Friday night - after that - if there's chemistry - the sky's the limit. One night only. You will probably never see me again. I'm not some wussy ass kissing nice guy, so if you're into that, don't respond. Your pic get's my pic. I like boobs. Yes I go down. No married women! Ages 20-40 OK. Don't reply if you aren't fit. Drug and disease free of course!
I also contacted a couple of ads that were posted in the area I am staying in. I pretty quickly got this response:

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Originally Posted by Amber
Hi there.
Thanks for your reply, I want to tell you a little about myself now, My name is Amber, I am GENUINE european girl, half german-half czech. I am very open minded and consider myself attractive.. I have attached a pic, I hope you like it :-) .. I drink socially, I do not smoke..trying to keep fit. When it comes to "these" things I am allways up for fun and trying new things. I am not a slut and I rarely go on craigslist, I just looking for some long term NSA, I wanna hear some more about you and pics.
Let me know if your still interested

-Amber
I replied:

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Hi Amber,

nice pic! Definitely interested.

Look me up on Facebook - Andrew XXXX. Lot's of pics - I like to have fun and occasionally party pretty hard!

Slut is one of the stupidest terms in the english language - I don't know why most North American's are so freakin uptight about sex!

So - the basics. I'm 35, I work as an Engineer (but don't hold that against me). I ride mountain bikes a lot - downhill ski - like to climb mountains. I have a son from a now over marriage (separated last year) - he's 3. I am also pretty open minded. Fit - I've traveled a little (lived in California for a year and a half, lived in Dublin Ireland for 8 months, traveled in India, Thailand, Australia, New Zealand, Costa Rica, all over Canada, US, Ireland, Scottland, Britain).

Are you free tonight? I'm in Abbotsford but have wheels. Can't host as I am staying with family (ish).

I would like to meet for a drink first as chemistry is pretty damn important.

Get back to me.

Cheers!

Andrew
her response:

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hey again
I am interested in something thats long term, NSA. I kinda want to keep this discreet - my ex-boyfriend is kinda a psycho ever since we broke up. haha.. 3.5 year relationship. Anyways.. I don't know if I told you or not yet, I have a daughter who is 22 months old, but she will always be sleeping by the time you come over...
This is my first time doing this kinda thing online - so Im kinda iffy about it.
I dont use any messengers - only one that I use at work...
i was hoping we could stay in contact from a free site if your interested in making it long term.... my profile is at www.safelynsa.com I have my cell phone number on there - if you want to send me a text and we could get together tonight or tomorrow night - that would be great.,,, im signing off the computer now though, hope to hear from you.
Amber <3
Now - there's the scam. I had been sent that link before, and as they were asking for credit card info and the lady in question (a different lady) didn't look all that attractive, I decided not to risk it (looked like a scam). This time, I figured heck, maybe I'm being anal - so I signed up and in the end all I got was a "free" membership to some HD Porn video site. GAHHH!! I immediately canceled it, and this was the best part - they try to get you to sign up for some $19.95 deal as you are canceling, and the second time there's a timer and it says if you don't click "no thanks" in 20 seconds they will sign you up for whatever choice happens to be clicked! Total effin bull shite!

I write back out of frustration:

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Well - thanks. Nice scam. Karma's a bitch and will get you in the end.
and expect this to be the end. But no - this lady (if she is a lady) is pretty damn tenacious. She sends another e-mail:

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Originally Posted by Amber
heey...
im free tonight - if you wanna get together...
oh about the credit card thing on that site, i joined it 5 months ago and ive never been charged. its an age verification. i dont think they can leagally hold the number anyway. so you should give me a text if you want to get together tonight. other than that, i have plans for tomorrow but i wont be very busy after that.

truly yours,
Amber
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Srsly - that site left me with a membership to some amateur porn thing.

How about you text me - 250-XXX-XXXX.

Thanks,

Andrew
she tries again:

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I was wondering why I didn't hear from you, and then I realized that I sent you to the wrong verification site. That one didn't work for me about 2 weeks ago, so I set up at another. You can go to it here. That has my phone number in huge numbers once you get done.

Please hurry though. I want to do this tonight if we can
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That's the same site...
and that was it...

About a half hour later I get a "response" to my ad that is almost the exact same wording as the one I got before the whole shmozzle with Amber with the same freakin link (i.e. the first time some "woman" sent me the bogus link - before Amber and before I tried it). This time, however, the lady is at a different e-mail addy and is a different ethnic background...looks like a cut and paste job.

So - a warning to anyone using Craigslist - beware the NSA secure site!
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Old July 24th, 2009, 11:26 PM
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Questions?

1) Did you get any real responses?

2) What is your shoe size?

3) What is your favorite cereal?
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Old July 24th, 2009, 11:41 PM
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1) Did you get any real responses?

2) What is your shoe size?

3) What is your favorite cereal?
1) nope

2) ????? (stay the eff away from my shoes!)

3) varies by the week
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Old July 25th, 2009, 12:46 AM
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Come on dude. You didn't get wise after her first response? Never, ever, fucking ever, visit any site any one you don't know sends you. Especially some random "girl" on Craig's list. Who knows how infectulated your computer is now.
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Old July 25th, 2009, 01:39 AM
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Now - there's the scam. I had been sent that link before, and as they were asking for credit card info and the lady in question (a different lady) didn't look all that attractive, I decided not to risk it (looked like a scam). This time, I figured heck, maybe I'm being anal - so I signed up and in the end all I got was a "free" membership to some HD Porn video site. GAHHH!! I immediately canceled it, and this was the best part - they try to get you to sign up for some $19.95 deal as you are canceling, and the second time there's a timer and it says if you don't click "no thanks" in 20 seconds they will sign you up for whatever choice happens to be clicked! Total effin bull shite!
Assume that your credit card number has been compromised. Have your bank send you a new card, with a new number, and check for any suspicious cryptic charges.

Also, you should realize that all the information you've given this female automated script may be resold, and reused on you for social engineering and/or scamming purposes. Once a potential easy mark, always a potential easy mark.

You should never be too careful. My cousin got charged for an age verification site for several months, when the site said it would only charge him this one time (I'm not sure why credit card companies stand for crap like this). In his case, he was indeed looking to enter a porn site, and it was such a small amount he didn't notice it every month (thought, his wife did notice it, but he didn't hide his porn habit from his wife anyway -- so it wasn't much of a problem for him -- but I could see how something like this could become a problem for other married men who do hide their porn habit/craigslist extracurricular activities).

- Jack
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Old July 25th, 2009, 04:47 AM
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it's very common to get marketing emails even when you post sites to the regular dating side of CL. You have to learn to recognize them and then delete those emails immediately. I would say you get about 3 fake to 1 real on the "regular" side and 20 - 1 on the NSA side.

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Old July 25th, 2009, 12:32 PM
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Tryed it too

Most are just people making money by getting you to go to a website and sign up. There are some good items for sale though and I dont mean pussy either.
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Old July 25th, 2009, 02:11 PM
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Reply to the First question said it all - nope

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1) nope

2) ????? (stay the eff away from my shoes!)

3) varies by the week
So you got ZERO real responses - WHY?

I often pull 6 to 10 real responses when I post... What you wrote had no edge at all - it was a "Safe Guy" post. There is a sticky thread about not being the "safe guy".

http://www.nomoremrniceguy.com/forum...ad.php?t=11544

I've been using CL to develop edgy humor for some time now... Done enough I have confidence to use it in everyday places. It was a lot of trial, error, and hard work... all you really need is a headline, zero to 10 words, and a photo. Woman don't know what to expect when they click to read the post...


My better posts were titled:
  • I Fixed The Problem!
  • Can you Handle 11.5 Inches?
  • I've got a Fetish for Frosted Flakes!

I wear size 11.5 shoes, a woman who clicks on my post about Handling 11.5 inches is not Mary Poppins, she has pre-qualified herself to having an interest in sex.

So what is your shoe size?
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Old July 25th, 2009, 09:00 PM
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^^^ Ahhh - now I get it. I thought you were razzing me about giving out too much background info. I will definitely try a more "edgey" approach next time I post a CL ad.
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Old July 25th, 2009, 09:02 PM
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Assume that your credit card number has been compromised. Have your bank send you a new card, with a new number, and check for any suspicious cryptic charges.

Also, you should realize that all the information you've given this female automated script may be resold, and reused on you for social engineering and/or scamming purposes. Once a potential easy mark, always a potential easy mark.
- Jack
Credit card canceled today - what a pain in the arse. Oh well - lesson learned. I always pay close attention to my cards and accounts (usually check it at least once per day...).

Thanks for the warning...
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Old July 26th, 2009, 05:49 PM
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Hey Grow my rocks

Have you ever actually met any of them. I met one chick online from POF. Not to bad but she tried too hard. Never went past the cup of coffee for me.
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Yes - I have meet several

I use to meet about 1 every 3 months - normal woman - never someone I wanted to go out with. CL has gone downhill in the last year - I still find it is a good place to practice...

I got 7 replies for the Frosted Flakes post - meet 5 of the 7, that one was the best reply-meet ratio of all I have posted.

I've used the 11.5 inches twice. I can't recall how many replies I got. Last time an older woman was begging to meet - we got to phone conversations and she really wanted sex. Also last time a black woman replied and she also really wanted sex... I really practiced taking the lead and asking her to do things. At one point I told her I use to be a boy scout and included a photo of K-Y and condoms. Never talked on the phone...

I won't go into details of "I've fixed the Problem" one. Got about 7 responses from woman and 2 from guys that really loved it. Got to phone conversations with 2 - one fat, not really near me, other older and kept telling me if I knew what older woman were like?

CL has been a playground for me to really practice humor and build some new habits - it worked for me and has served its purpose..

Sometime this week I am heading out to a bar with one of my safe people (friend) to start learning to approach the way a PUA would...
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Old July 27th, 2009, 06:14 AM
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Credit card canceled today - what a pain in the arse. Oh well - lesson learned. I always pay close attention to my cards and accounts (usually check it at least once per day...).

Thanks for the warning...
did you actually give them your card number?
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I use to meet about 1 every 3 months - normal woman - never someone I wanted to go out with. CL has gone downhill in the last year - I still find it is a good place to practice...

I got 7 replies for the Frosted Flakes post - meet 5 of the 7, that one was the best reply-meet ratio of all I have posted.

I've used the 11.5 inches twice. I can't recall how many replies I got. Last time an older woman was begging to meet - we got to phone conversations and she really wanted sex. Also last time a black woman replied and she also really wanted sex... I really practiced taking the lead and asking her to do things. At one point I told her I use to be a boy scout and included a photo of K-Y and condoms. Never talked on the phone...

I won't go into details of "I've fixed the Problem" one. Got about 7 responses from woman and 2 from guys that really loved it. Got to phone conversations with 2 - one fat, not really near me, other older and kept telling me if I knew what older woman were like?

CL has been a playground for me to really practice humor and build some new habits - it worked for me and has served its purpose..

Sometime this week I am heading out to a bar with one of my safe people (friend) to start learning to approach the way a PUA would...
I tried posting a few times, but I never had any luck with it either. I did meet one of my dates a couple of years ago, but things didn't go anywhere from that point.

I realize it's a matter of being persistent, but it gets way too disheartening to get one scam reply after another similar to above. Maybe i should give it another roll after i get back from the gym tonight.
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Old July 27th, 2009, 05:40 PM
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Yeah Honking

I really dont have time to sift thru the scams either. I mostly prefer day to day contact in the real world!
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